Severity In Speech And Harshness

Severity in speech and harshness are blameworthy and wrong when out of place.

Nevertheless, they have their proper place in occassions when forbidding the wrong is ineffective when gentleness is used.

Harshness and severity of speech is also used when imposing prescribed legal penalties as per Divine Law, and in reprimanding or disciplining those who require it.

Allah SWT mentions this act in various verses of the Qur'an, such as follows:

"...And be harsh with them"

"Let them find severity in you''

"Let not pity for them seize you concerning the religion of Allah''

Other than in the bove-mentioned cases, it is praiseworthy for one to use amiable words, have a cheerful expression, and to smile.

The Prophet SAW said:

"There is a dwelling in Paradise whose outside can be seen from inside.''

Abu Malik Asha'ari RA asked:

"Whose shall it be for, O Messenger of Allah (SAW)?''

Rasulullah SAW replied:

"He whose speech is fair, who feeds others, and who spends the night standing in prayer when
people sleep.'' (Al-Durar Al-Mubaha)